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- Jessica Os explains that women respond to expectations instead of requests and move with certainty rather than asking for permission.
- Jessica Os points out that women choose based on emotion and intrigue rather than logic or resume details.
- Jessica Os teaches that women are attracted to things they feel they have to earn through a reward system and implied scarcity.
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how to get what you want from women 99% of the time see most men are playing this game completely wrong you think getting what you want from a woman is about luck looks or saying the perfect line sorry to disappoint you there's a system a way women respond to men that 99% of guys are blind to and once you understand this you'll never have to beg Chase or settle again stay with me cuz I'm about to break it down step by step
exactly how to get what you want from women almost every single time without manipulation without games and without looking like a fool Jessica OS here welcome back to the channel so here's what we're getting into today first the exact mindset shift that flips the script where she starts investing in you two The Secret Language women respond to even when they don't
realize it three how to make her want to give you what you want without ever asking for it and lastly the biggest mistake men make that instantly kills their power in any interaction so if you're tired of getting ignored ghosted or feeling like you're constantly convincing women to give you their time pay attention cuz this is for you number one shift from asking to expecting ever
notice how the men women chase the hardest are the ones who never ask for anything think about it have you ever seen a powerful confident man ask a woman for permission to take the lead no he just moves with certainty and that's because he understands one of the biggest psychological truths in dating women respond to expectations and not requests the problem most men put women in control without ever realizing it
most guys don't realize that every time they phrase something as a question like for instance can I take you out or would you like to hang out they're subconsciously telling the woman one she has the power two she's the prize and three you're waiting for her approval and what happens when you give a woman all the power well she loses interest fast have you ever seen those guys who text girls something like hey do you want to go out sometime and then she either takes forever to reply or hits him with uh maybe I'll let you know yeah
that's not a maybe bro that's a polite no now what you have to do differently is move with certainty and expectation okay let's flip the script instead of asking say hey I'm hitting up this new spot this Friday come with me or I'm free Thursday let's grab a drink do you see the difference you're not asking for a decision you're stating your plan with confidence and now she has to react to what you said women love a man who makes decisions why because it signals that
you're a leader and not a follower a leader doesn't ask he expects you see when you lead with confidence like this a woman will either respect it and follow your lead because women are naturally drawn to certainty two counter with an alternative so for instance you'll say maybe something like hey I can't hang out Friday but I'm free Saturday or a decline but with way more respect than if if you begged for a chance to hang out and guess what if she declines without offering you an
alternative you just saved yourself time because she wasn't interested in you to start with so ask yourself are you making her qualify for your time or are you treating her like she's doing you a favor now while we're on the topic I want you to avoid making this very important mistake you cannot do any of what I'm teaching you with neediness if you text hey I'm going out Friday you should come and she doesn't reply don't double text don't Chase move on okay
don't beg her to go out with you and now that you know how to shift the power let's talk about the next key speaking language women actually respond to because if you get this part wrong it doesn't matter how confident you are she'll never feel that pull towards you okay so let's break it down Point number two so if you're talking to women like you talk to your boys you're already losing here's why most guys try to convince women to like them with logic right they say things like oh I have a
great job I'm a nice guy I treat you well or they say something like you should go out with me because we have a lot in common or I'm not like other guys I actually respect women bro no it's not the language women respond to women don't choose based on logic they choose based on emotion they don't care about your resume they care about how you make them feel have you ever wondered why a woman can turn down a successful stable
guy but then chase this toxic dude who barely texts her back it's not because she wants the drama drama it's because the guy triggers her emotions right he's unpredictable he keeps her guessing he makes her feel something so the real question is how do you do that without coming across as toxic the answer is speak in a way that creates Intrigue and emotion so if you want a woman to feel something when she talks to you a couple
of things right first you want to be playfully challenging okay so women expect guys to come at them with compliments and approval but when you subtly challenge her in instead then you start to stand out right use intriguing statements not boring questions so most guys will kill attraction with interview style questions really boring like oh so what do you do for work or where are you from or what do you like to do for
fun yeah thrilling conversation instead of asking predictable questions make intriguing statements that pull her in okay statements like you seem like the kind of woman who secretly has a wild side that no but he knows about or I bet you were the Troublemaker in high school don't even try to deny it or I can already tell you're either an amazing cook or a complete disaster in the kitchen no in between now she has to
respond she has to play along and suddenly you're the one leading that conversation instead of chasing it so I guess what I'm saying is make her chase by creating a sense of mystery one of the fastest ways to lose a woman's interest is oversharing that's the quickest way to make her lose attraction take it from me okay once she feels like she's figured you out there's no more excitement so if you want her intrigued reveal yourself slowly when a woman is curious about you she's already
emotionally invested keep that in mind Point number three make her want to give you what you want think about it who has the power in an interaction is it the one who's requesting or the one who's granting the request now the reason most guys struggle to get what they want from a woman is because they're focused on taking instead of inspiring and the secret to flipping the script is make her want to do things for you without
ever having to ask okay now here's what I need you to understand women aren't attracted to the things they're given they're attracted to the things that they feel like they have to earn think about the guy who overinvestment compliments her nonstop does she appreciate it nope not really trust me but the guy who makes her work for is a attention the guy who gives her
just enough to keep her intrigued but never too much to feel one she will chase that guy every single time so if you want to get what you want from a woman you have to create the feeling that she's earning it now over the next few minutes I'll share three psychological triggers that make women want to give you what you want all right real quick and these are one the reward system to the power of implied scarcity and the make it about you technique once
you master these three techniques you'll never have to beg for anything again so let's jump into the first one the reward system by this I mean only reward Behavior you want to see more of okay women are wired to chase validation but the mistake you make is you reward women for doing nothing for example a woman barely texts you back and what do you do you double text you send a good morning message the next day anyway even though she didn't respond you keep giving her
attention without her having to earn it and that's why she stops valuing it because she didn't have to work for it instead when she invests in you whether it's giving you her time putting in effort or showing you attention you should reward that behavior with your energy but if she starts slacking pull back no emotional reaction no chasing just distance and guess what if she actually values you she'll notice the shift and suddenly she'll be the one
putting in the effort again because women always want what they feel they could lose let's talk about the second technique the power of implied scarcity make her feel like your attention is limited now if you want a woman to want to do things for you you have to make them feel like your attention is a privilege not a guarantee okay maybe you've never noticed but women chase the guys who seem just a little bit unavailable scarcity creates value if you're always available she assumes your
time isn't worth much instead of always replying instantly I keep telling you take your time instead of always saying yes to her plans make her work around your schedule sometimes right instead of constantly validating her keep a little mystery and when she feels like she has to earn your attention suddenly she'll be offering to do things for you just to keep her spot in your life third thing the make it about her technique
subconscious persuasion now this one's Next Level if you do it right you can get almost anything you want from a woman and she'll feel like it was her idea are you ready okay so you see most guys ask for things in a way that makes it about them okay so can you do this for me I really need this from you it will make me happy if you do this and what is that do it makes her feel like you're taking instead of offering an experience this is a better way to go
about it instead of saying cook for me sometime you want to say hey you look like you know how to cook up a storm I need to see this for myself instead of saying send me a picture say I bet you're looking stunning right now aren't you see what's happening here instead of demanding you're planting an idea in her mind that makes her want to prove something to you and when she feels like she's the one deciding to do something for you you're not just getting what you want you're making her excited to give it to
you so guys if you've made it this far you already have a massive advantage over most men but there's one mistake that can ruin everything and trust me 99% of guys do this without even realizing it so let's discuss this the number one mistake that kills power negotiating for her attention if you have to to convince your woman to like you you've already lost let me ask you something Have you ever found yourself trying to prove to a woman that you're a great guy maybe you text her more when
she pulls away maybe you remind her of all the reasons that she should give you a chance right maybe you even settle for friendship hoping that she'll eventually see your worth and give you something more and yet the more effort you put in the less interested she seems that's because women don't respect men who negotiate for their attention and when woman doesn't respect you attraction is dead Okay so the problem is you're
making her set the terms right the fix is you need to take back control stop negotiating and start leading a woman should be proving herself to you not the other way around let me teach you three quick things before I wrap up this video the first one is what I call the one strike rule if she pulls away once mirror her energy no chasing no explaining just pull back and let her come to you if she p away twice she's
gone period because a woman who's truly interested will always find a way to show you and if she's not you just saved yourself months of waste of time and money and now you're only giving your energy to women who actually deserve it right second thing drop the pickme energy so have you ever seen those guys who practically beg a woman to give them a chance yeah that's called pick me energy and it's a oneway ticket to the friend zone women don't want to feel
like they're doing you a favor by being with you nobody likes to feel that way they want to feel like they've won something valuable and the only way she'll feel that is if you carry yourself like a man who already knows his worth Real Talk guys look if this is hitting home drop a fire Emoji in the comments I want to know how many of you are actually seeing this game for what it really is third thing I need you to be aware of keep an abundance mindset I'll say less just watch my video the
five secret mindsets of men who never chase it'll answer all your questions and more I'll leave a link to that video in this video's description Jessica o here catch you in the next video cheers