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- According to Todd V Dating, every single text received falls into one of four categories: silence, a shit test, something logical or platonic, or something clearly positive.
- When receiving silence, Todd V Dating advises pinging value into the void by sharing something cool, fun, or interesting without asking anything in return.
- Todd V Dating explains that the end goal of texting is to move things forward to a close and get her off the phone and in person.
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When I decided to create the tech series I was a little torn as far as how to present it because usually when I teach I want to teach you the exact reason why before I teach you the how because the why controls the how However with texting what I also want to do is I want to teach you the thing that will get you the biggest result for the most people as fast as possible and So I decided to lead with that So the thing that I see wrong in the most guys text game that I see that I coach
Is the following they don't know where they're at in the interaction? They don't know if the girl really likes them and it's time to make plans or they don't know if it's fading and they need to recover it Right and so the most important thing I can give you right up front in a tech system is a way of knowing Exactly where you're at and exactly what to do next and that's what I'm going to give you in this video What I'm basically going to tell you is this every single text you've ever received It all falls into the category of one of four different types of text
There are only four different types of text you've received those four types of texts are number one silence Number two a shit test number three something sort of logical or platonic and number four something that's clearly positive Okay, every single text you've received falls into one of those four categories or Occasionally it'll fall into a mix of two of them that are next to each other And if you look at those categories, they reflect a
Gradient between the girl barely likes you to the girl really likes you so the girls giving you silence She's not that bought in yet. You have a lot more work to do She's give you something clearly positive things are pretty good You should be making plans and if you're in the middle getting a shit test or getting something logical You're getting closer and closer to that positive elements Okay, so here's what I'm going to tell you Every single time you get a text look at the text and you can immediately
Categorize it as which of the four is it or is it maybe two that are next to each other like occasionally You'll get a shit test with like a logical question thrown in with it Or you'll get a logical question with a positive, right? But it's one of those four or two that are next to each other every single time period. Okay, so Based on that, you know how far you are now the idea is The less well things are going the more you need to convey your personality and offer value and make the situation fun
To get things going better when things are going well. You need to close So the mistake I see guys make is things are going really badly and they try and close every single text, right? The girls barely responding they text the girl She responds three days later with a one word answer and the next thing they do is try and make plans That's almost never gonna work the girls not bought in enough for that on the other hand I'll see girls responding so positively to you guys like sending like fucking naked pictures and stuff like that And the guy just keeps the conversation going and going and going and never attempts to close
So when you're texting you need to be moving things forward to a close Okay, the end goal of texting is to get her off of the phone and in person with you Because it's a lot easier to have sex in person than it is through the phone I haven't figured out how to have sex through a phone yet So you need to get her in person. That's the end goal. So If you're getting silence what you need to do very simply is what I call pinging value into the void
You're going to say something cool fun funny interesting and very importantly. You're asking for nothing in return Right because if she gave you silence before it's very likely that the next response you're gonna get will get silence also so if you send something that's very like Needy or that requires an answer and then you get silence you've massively hurt yourself in the text sequence However, we've seen something just fun and funny and interesting that doesn't require a response One you're more likely to get a response and two if you don't get a response
It's not as big of a deal So in terms of this when I say pinging value into the void I want you to think of like a social media update like a fun Facebook post or a little tweet that you'd put out there Right something like that's just fun funny interesting pictures memes are great for this sort of a thing Okay, now on a certain more advanced level if there's some relevance to it. That's better, right?
So for example, I actually field tested this if you send a girl a random like cute photo of a cat a lot of girls will respond to that However, I wasn't able to turn a lot of those responses into dates because they're responding to the cat and not to you or anything Relevance, right? So it's better if it's fun funny interesting value offering but also relevant to you and her in some way Okay, so that's what we're looking for but you're pinging value into the void You're basically putting this interesting tidbit of your life or interesting little anecdote or cool picture or something like that out there and
Just doesn't matter if it gets a response if it gets a response great If it didn't you shared something cool with her right the same as what you would post on social media And actually when we get around to social media texting The fact that this works is one of the reasons why social media is so powerful in texting because it's even less invested way of Doing almost the same thing. Okay, so if you're getting silence value into the void very importantly Don't ask questions very importantly. Don't try and make plans off of silence Let's say now you get a shit test is a little bit better than a silence
And now by the way a shit test is much better than silence silence is the worst by far shit test is good If a girl is giving you shit test that means she's putting the time and effort into respond to you And she's putting the time and effort into text you if she's shit testing you she likes you Okay, if girls are shit testing you you should be able to make plans with them the the majority of the time Majority of the time shit test should be turnable into plans The key thing with shit tests is just pass the shit test and that's it
Okay, that's it just pass it and similar to in real life the way you pass the shit test is by a grain exaggerate Reframe those kind of ideas right but just pass it now if if you pass the shit test What you're basically doing is you're saying, you know, you have a cool interesting life You're not too reactive to her. You're fun. You're playful, right?
And you you're not too invested in that in the outcome guys mess this up by But first of all they mess it up by failing the shit test But assume they pass the shit test they mess it up by passing the shit test and then asking a question That takes away all the power of what you just did Okay, or they they mess it up by passing the shit test and then asking for plans That makes you needy right the shit test pass made you not needy the plans just prove that you're actually needy in the first place Okay, so just pass the shit test and trust that it's good enough
A lot of guys get worried they pass the shit test and they worry that they didn't give the girl enough to respond to If you did a good job with it you did and here's the important thing You remember what it feels like when a girl texts you something a little bit difficult And you don't know quite what to do with it And you're like, oh shit, what do I do and you think about it?
You put it back in your pocket and you pull it back out You put it back in your pocket and you think about it and think about it You obsess about it and you eventually send something and then the second you send it you realize it was terrible Girls go through that process too And if you occasionally put them on the spot and occasionally make things hard for them You allow them to put in that effort and get invested If every single text you're asking them a question at the end are making it too easy to respond to Then they're never going to have that process Now you can obviously go too far the other way if the text is too bland and there's no reason to respond
That's a problem too. So the key thing is to give them a reason to respond make it interesting enough to respond And sometimes you can make it easy to respond But especially on shit tests you need to just pass the shit test and standard ground and trust that it was good enough All right when you do that you'll get some really good responses to it when you start softening it Or like hedging your bets and trying to make sure you get a response back It just comes across it. That's exactly what we're trying to do when it comes across as needy So when you get a shit test just pass the shit test don't ask questions
Don't make plans just pass it and that's what's going to get you from the shit test to logical conversation or something positive That's when you're really in business when the girl's like just conversing with you like friend to friend Um and and really responding and adding to the conversation Or she's she's giving you positive things to work with that's when you need to start making plans And so obviously we'll go to positive positive is very easy to deal with when the girls
Responding to positively start making plans and I didn't say make plans. I said start making plans big distinction there Okay, so a lot of guys their way of making plans is let's do tacos and drinks Tuesday at this place just out of the blue That's a big problem It's a big problem because one you haven't screened for if she's down for plans or how into you she is And if she's ready for that two you don't know her schedule So it could be even if she wants to meet up with you. She's not ready for that
So what I usually do in terms of making plans is I do a multi step sequence Right a lot of times what will look for look like and if you guys have seen my um any of my text materials in the past You'll see that I do almost the same thing every time But usually it's something on the lines of a qualifier And then a vague suggestion and then a close So one example might be something like um, are you an adventurous person? She says yes What's your view on drinks and witty banter with a cute boy?
She responds haha some kind of response is positive Cool What's your schedule like this week and then nail it down to a plan right? So it's a multi step process each step gets you a little bit closer to The close but it's not just dropping the entire close all at once However, if you are getting positives you do need to be at least bridging the close You shouldn't be getting positive response after positive response and just keeping it conversational
Again, the purpose of text is to get her off the phone and off the text and into a real conversation with you in person, okay Um, also if you are getting positives Sometimes in order to make plans you can actually use the phone as a phone I know that's a novel concept in 2018 You can use the phone as a phone pick it up and actually call her because if she's responding very positively It's likely that she will pick up the phone
Especially if she just texted you because she knows that you know that she's right by her phone Okay, so that's actually a useful thing too off with positivity is make the plans that way Now let's talk about this gray area that's that's kind of like the the finesse area Which is if you're getting a logical or just like conversational responses or getting asked questions, right?
So it's like, you know, I did this how was your weekend? Right a lot of guys have trouble with that And what you need to understand is first of all it's a positive. It's not just conversation is a positive She's spending the time and energy to text you If she's doing that she likes you so the fundamental assumption is she does like you remember that at all times remember she likes you Now what you're going to do with this Is one of two things you're either going to respond back to the question or logical very briefly
And then try and do something to add some banter add some flirtation to it And that's if if the conversation has only just started or if the conversation was kind of like rocky at first And it's only just gotten to that logical conversational point Okay, if it's if it's there then you want to like Respond to the logical but make sure it's not bland and make sure it's logical with a little banter or answer the question With a little banter a little flirtation So what you're trying to do is add just a tiny tiny piece of flirtation
Into the conversation and make it that kind of a conversation and that's going to get you the flirtation part to the overly positive where you can clearly make plans If it's been logical for a few texts or it's been generally positive and now it's logical A lot of times there you can still go ahead and make plans So if it's in that logical question area you need to think about Not just the last text, but the overall context of the situation And then think is it more positive or more negative?
It's more negative start creating the banter like logical plus banter if it's more positive logical plus close Okay, so that this kind of a gray area there But essentially if you look at the four types of texts silence just ping value Shit test just pass it if you're getting logical or questions deal with the logical questions But then nudge it in the right direction Whether that is banter or close and then if it's positive get down to the close not in one text But over a series of texts So what do you have now?
What you have now is this every single time that you receive a text You're going to know where you're at and you're going to know how to respond to it And by the way, even if things were very very positive and you're about to make plans and all of a sudden she's shit testing you Stop trying to make the plans the last text she gave you was a shit test Just pass the shit test and let it escalate again positively from there. Okay Um, so that's what you want to be doing You want to be understanding where you're at in the interaction and based on where you're at
Then you'll know where to go. Okay, and in general about 90 95 of time. This is going to guide you very well over the course of the rest of the um the text sequence and all the lessons I'm going to teach you I'm going to talk to you about a lot of specific situations that come up I'm going to talk to you about how to implement this really really well and how to put this on on overdrive The one thing I will caution you because you will have seen this video before maybe you've seen some of the others is um
Understand this as a guide, but don't be completely stupid about it. All right So what I see a lot of guys do when they learn this is um, they learn that when you receive silence that Um, but that means you have to go back to the drawing board and offer value And that is true if you messed up or sent a bad text and you got silence Especially if it's a rocky interaction you get silence however If you've been like texting this girl for months and months and months